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ADHD Couple Check-In Agenda

A weekly couple check-in agenda for reminders, chores, emotional repair, money admin, and next agreements.

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Who this helps

Couples who need a calmer place to handle logistics before they become fights.

Use this when

  • Important topics only come up when someone is already upset.
  • Household work, reminders, or admin keep turning into blame.
  • The couple needs a shared system instead of repeated verbal promises.

How to use the template

  1. Start with one appreciation or low-pressure opening.
  2. Review shared commitments and chores.
  3. Name one friction point without diagnosing character.
  4. Choose one practical agreement for the week.
  5. Close with the next check-in time.

Template prompts

Opening

One thing I noticed or appreciated this week:

Logistics

The shared tasks or commitments to review are:

Friction

One pattern that needs a better system is:

Agreement

This week we will try:

Repair

One repair or reassurance needed is:

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Common questions

How long should a couple check-in take?

Twenty to thirty minutes is enough. If it gets longer, split logistics and emotional repair into separate conversations.

What if one partner dislikes structured talks?

Keep the agenda short and practical. The point is to reduce surprise conflict, not to turn the relationship into a meeting.

Want the complete system behind this template?

The related John Lindberg book expands this tool into a fuller ADHD system with examples, troubleshooting, and repeatable routines.

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